This past weekend I held a friend while she cried and shook for 5 hours. It was one of the most beautiful things I have ever seen.
My friend and I were talking about feeling safe as children. How every child is helpless and therefore needs to feel protected in order to fully develop. How true development, exploration and learning can only happen inside a container of safety.
And then my friend realized that she had never felt safe, seen and cared for. Ever. In her entire life...
Read MoreIf you could remove one word from your daily conversations and vastly improve your relationships and your life, would you do it?
Here's the trick: Stop saying "I feel like ... " and say "I feel ..." instead.
When we say "I feel like ... " we're not actually expressing our feelings. It's much more likely that we'll express a judgement or a demand. And in most communication, judgements and demands are ineffective - they create distance and destroy connection. Actual feelings on the other hand are effective because they create closeness, trust and intimacy...
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